There is a hint in the account of King David's adultery that he began the process long before he actually slept with Bathsheba. In spring, when other kings were off to war (as were his own armies), this king was not. Why not? The text doesn't say; perhaps it was 'read in' that he fancied a certain neighbour.

And then - surprise! When Bathsheba was taking her bath, just what was David doing up on his own roof? Getting an eyeful. Certainly not turning away.

Your mother was teaching you something very important when she said, in response to your being hurt, "well if you'd been behaving, that wouldn't have happened". Your mother was a wise prophet.

David was definitely not behaving. Well before Bathsheba was between his sheets, he'd set up the situation, step by step. There's a lesson here. Big events, like sleeping with someone else's wife, do not come along out of the blue, all big and shockingly bold, easily resisted on that account. No, we set them up until the final act is just one more tiny and o-so-natural step.

It is possible to imitate David in the Wellington of 2004. It is possible to be a fool. Thankfully, though, not all mis-behaviour leads where it might. A mother's love sometimes judges it better to turn the situation away from your hurt, rather that letting you learn the hard way. But a wise son would know what could have happened.